How annoying, Apple has disabled the power tools in Screen Sharing that are mentioned in this great article. This comes in a recent update to security or system or something. I got around the problem by downgrading my Screen Sharing to 1.0 which I found on an old computer in the office. The app is dated 10/2007.
I use Screen Sharing to connect to my mini at home when I am at the office or on the road and need to access media. I’ve never had to connect to my work computer because I keep that synced with imap, idisk, svn and git.